November 2008

“He that cannot ask cannot live.”

~ Old Proverb

Inquiring minds would like to know… Do you question life? Do you question others? Do you question yourself? Are you willing to consider these questions?

What are you grateful for?

What are you afraid of?

What can you do to face one of your fears right now? Today?

What is one new thing you would like to do?

What are your greatest qualities?

How can you make someone else’s day a little brighter?

What are your life goals?

How can yesterday’s problems be today’s motivations?

Are you making the most of your one wild and precious life?

What is the craziest thing you want to do?

Who/What has had the greatest impact on your life?

What do you really want to be doing?

Who do you want to be with?

What inspires your passion?

What is missing in your life?

Are you willing to take risks?

Who do you love?

What do you love?

How can you be a better listener?

Do you surround yourself with good and like-minded people?

Do you listen to your heart?

Please add to the list!!! What is a favorite question of yours? What do you regularly ask yourself or want to know of others?

“A man is what he thinks all day long.”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

…this post was inspired by


Monterey’s own Green Building Expo will be held at the Monterey Conference Center on Wednesday, December 3rd from 2pm until 7pm. Come by and hobnob with stars in our community who are leading our local, creative, green and sustainable revolution. There will be speakers, booths, refreshments, free goodies, music and endless possibilities for education, inspiration and a general all-around good time!

May I be happy.

May I be well.

May I be safe.

May I be peaceful and at ease.

May you be happy.

May you be safe.

May you be well.

May you be peaceful and at ease.

We become whole through relationships and through letting go of relationships.

~ Sigmund Freud

Do you enjoy healthy relationships? Are you involved in a meaningful and fulfilling relationship with a man or a woman? Do you give and receive love easily?

David Richo, author of How to be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving suggests that to be successful parents, friends and partners five elemental qualities are required: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection and allowing. “Attention leads to self-respect,” he says. “Acceptance engenders a sense of being inherently a good person. Appreciation generates a sense of self-worth. Affection makes us feel lovable. Allowing gives us the freedom to pursue our own deepest needs, values and wishes… These five A’s are essential ingredients of love, respect, security and support. In addition they form the essence of spiritual practice: what we cultivate in meditation and the path of compassion… they are the components of building the virtue of love in ourselves… to love is to become loving.”

Whether you are questioning your relationship now, may have done so in the past, or find yourself doing so at some point in the future, Richo offers a series of questions that can serve to support, guide and clarify…

Do you and your partner show one another love, respect, and support by giving and receiving the five A’s?

Do you enjoy and feel safe in one another’s company?

Do you regularly make time for one another?

Is this relationship fully in keeping with your own deepest needs, values and wishes?

Are you remaining faithful to one another?

Do you trust your partner?

Are you and your partner willing to work on conflicts together?

Are you keeping agreements with one another?

Regarding past hurts, do you now live in an atmosphere of mended failures rather than of stubbornly held resentments?

Does your partnership match what you always wanted for yourself in an intimate relationship?

Are you together by choice rather than because of history, family, social convention, financial security, religious influence, the absence of an immediate alternative, or the inconvenience in or fear of separating?

When you describe how you first met or how you first knew you were in love, is it with detail, enthusiasm, and a sense that it was fortunate?

Does your inner trio – heart, head, gut – assent to continuing the relationship?

“Oh I demanded so much of you

In this short lifetime.

Maybe we will find one another again

In the beginning of the next.”

~ Sixth Dalai Lama

Cornerstone Wellness Center


How do you take care of yourself? Do you practice good self-care?

What could you do to take even better care of yourself?

Cornerstone Wellness Center is a great resource in Monterey. Located in an adorable little house on the top of Cass Street, it offers a variety of treatments including personal training, massage and bodywork, skincare, quantum biofeedback and regulation thermography.

A team of esteemed local practitioners including Trina Hammack, Ulisses Jara, Ardell Hill, Daya Fisch and Angela Guerra among others, offer a variety of services to complement your existing health regimen.

Do you have a wellness center in your community? Do you integrate alternative methods of

healthcare into your lifestyle? How could you improve your healthcare options?

Moments of Choice

Debbie Ford, author, motivational speaker, life coach and founder of Integrative Life Coaching promotes the power and impact of choice. Everyday we make infinite small and numerous larger choices. She suggests that the quality of our choices dictates our future and that our future is determined by the choices we are making right now.

How do you make choices? Do you operate on autopilot or do you exercise conscious choice? Do you choose by not choosing? Or let others choose for you?

These ten questions come from Ford’s book The Right Questions: Ten Essential Questions to Guide you to an Extraordinary Life. They offer support and structure for conscious decision making.

The Right Questions

1. Will This Choice Propel Me Toward an Inspiring Future or Will it Keep Me Stuck in the Past?

2. Will This Choice Bring Me Long-Term Fulfillment or Will it Bring Me Short-Term Gratification?

3. Am I Standing in My Power or Am I Trying to Please Another?

4. Am I Looking for What is Right or Am I Looking for What is Wrong?

5. Will This Choice Add to My Life Force or Will it Rob Me of My Energy?

6. Will I Use This Situation as a Catalyst to Grow and Evolve or Will I Use It to Beat Myself Up?

7. Does This Choice Empower Me or Does it Disempower Me?

8. Is This an Act of Self-Love or Is it an Act of Self-Sabotage?

9. Is This an Act of Faith or is it an Act of Fear?

10. Am I Choosing from My Divinity or Am I Choosing From my Humanity?

What might be available to you if you were to utilize these questions in your life?